Minute by minute making choices

Every second of my day I have to make a choice. It's like this for everyone, I'm not different or unusual. I may have more obstacles to overcome in being successful when determining my path. What's the most important part of my day? Keeping my mind clear so I can always see the goals I'm attempting to achieve. Because I have multiple goals I must think even more clearly - with every step I take in my day staying aware and mindful - because if I don't cherish my goals I'll lose them in the fight of trying to win.

Conversations with my self abound and I must take the time to voice my concerns, my reasons for wanting to win, my reasons for my goals so they must be written in stone so that I can call on them easily. It's a tough fight every day. Day three of this very important journey and I'm not winning every fight. It's when I don't win that I must speak to myself again, encourage myself, be my own support system because Lord knows, I have only my maker and no one else to support me.

It's a game almost. I talk to myself and ask myself, "What is it that you want to gain or achieve?" and I have to think about it and answer myself, "I want to gain strength, I want to be the strongest I have ever been before in my life. I want to be a leader. I want physical and mental optimal health. I want to be in total self control."

I've talked about educating ones self until you can understand what it is you must do and then taking action to arrive at change being made. It's been my theme throughout the time I've had my network of websites. I discovered this theme early on but it's not that simple or easy to follow in all ways. I must still love myself and value myself. A friend put this quote on my facebook today of all days...

Without self promotion, one will never learn to value ones self. How can one find the value of others, if you cannot value yourself?

How did he know I needed to hear that? He's struggling too. He is on a personal growth journey of recovery as well, even if he doesn't realize it - he is. He is very good at expressing himself through writing. I'm learning more about writing and enjoying it very much. If I could only write nearly as well as he does it will be an accomplisment for me.

But the most important point I want to make is that gaining self mastery over ones self is like quitting cigarettes. You always want one, but you can't light the match, you can't even pick up the cigarette. You must throw them all away to quit cold turkey and you must stay vigilent because your mind will try to talk you into smoking just "ONE" just smoke one and then start to quit again... it will be okay. No one is completely successful at quitting. Sometimes cold turkey isn't possible for everyone. Baloney! Cold turkey is possible for everyone. You just have to want to win against nicotine.

You have to ask yourself the question - "What do you really want to accomplish here?" If you're hungry what do you ask yourself? "Am I really hungry? When did I eat last? What will I eat? Will I eat something that is going to promote good health? Will I eat something that is good for my body?" Then you have to talk yourself through the choices you are making when you open the refrigerator. There is no reasoning concerning eating poor choices because you want to win! This is self help. This is what you must do to help yourself win and become stronger. Then when you win you must revel in it. You must thank yourself for making good choices and you must say to yourself, "Good job! You are becoming stronger!"

If you ever watch Tiger Woods playing golf, (which you might think golf is boring, but try this sometime) you will notice that he carries himself like a professional. He carries himself like a winner. His body is in good shape and his mind must stay vigilent upon the goal of winning. He stays to himself and concentrates and doesn't let outside influences interfere with his goal of winning the game. He is a champion. He must tell himself throughout the game that he is the best and he can do what he is setting out to do. Once he lets his mind wander the goal may get lost. He may hit some poor shots off the fairway and into the trees or the rough. Then he must get himself out of the trouble he is in if he just let his mind wander for a few seconds. He must conger up those powers of concentration as he gets himself back on the road of a winner.

If you don't like golf, find someone that you admire who has accomplished great things. Study that person and see what you can do to follow in the winner's footsteps! This is my challenge. It is a challenge I must meet every second of my day and not tire of it. I want to be a winner and accomplish great things. I don't want to spend my time lamenting that I can never do what I want or that I am overwhelmed with the task. I am strong enough, I can gain more strength, I can beat the odds that self helpers face and win my game!

I had some time alone last night. Teenagers gone, husband fishing, and I had to think about what I was doing because I had neglected to think every second. I wasn't remembering that I want to be strong and healthy. I was just reacting and moving about without any thoughts at all. Why would I jeopardize winning? It's just because that is how I have been for too long. It's difficult to change habits. This is why the conversations with myself will be many and close together. I will win. I will have difficulties but I will come out on top. I am worth the battle. I love myself enough to do it. I have found out how important I am to the world. I can make changes in it.

I just figured out that 25,000 people a month are coming to my network of sites from around the world, not just in the US. That means that I have won the battle already because I remember starting out and only accomplishing a few hundred visitors per month. I remember having only one website and now there are almost thirty-five. I'm thrilled that I can make a simple change in someone's live every month, never mind the 25,000 visitors that are coming to my network. And I have a very large number of people who return! That is especially important to me because there is so much information here and I add info constantly to the network. I'm very happy to say I am accomplishing something good. Now I must help myself as much as I help others.

My motto of helping others while helping myself must stay forefront in my thoughts. I hope that if you are in a fight for accomplishing something that you will stay with me as I write my thoughts out for you to compare yours to. If you have any comments, questions or suggestions, I'm so happy to receive them! You can always email me instead of commenting here at: emotionalfeelings101@hotmail.com ! Have a happy Sunday!